They can help you:
- Become more emotionally stable
- Soothe a wounded heart
- Release and resolve suppressed feelings
- Heal recent or longstanding grief
- Become more aware of deep feelings
- Experience and express divine love
The most common of grieving stones is the Apache Tear and is often called the “grief stone”. Apache Tears can be exceptionally helpful when dealing with the loss of a loved one. Apache Tear is actually Obsidian and is very dark but transparent. When you hold a small piece up to the light you can see through it. However, if you have been using the Apache Tear to absorb negative emotions, you will see it cloud up and become opaque. Sometimes it will clear up after the grieving is over.
Meditation with Apache Tears can open the floodgates of grief, allowing cleansing and release of feelings of woundedness or grief in the loss of a loved one.
There are other stones that help one in a time of grief, sadness and where their auric field has been disturbed.
Rhodonite transforms and stabilizes your emotions. It soothes and brings order to feelings that are scattered, imbalanced, or ungrounded. Through its steady upliftment, Rhodonite gradually transforms your emotional foundation, making it more solid, healthy, and secure. At the same time, it uplifts your physical body by slowly and gently raising the quality of its energy. Rhodonite broadens your perspective and deepens your understanding of your emotions, helping you become more balanced, mature, and strong.
Ruby heals wounds of the heart as it soothes, mends, and strengthens the heart chakra. A combination of Ruby and Roselle gently massages the heart chakra, coaxing it to relax and let go of its heaviness and pain. Then Ruby helps prevent the return of these burdensome feelings by teaching the heart chakra to better regulate itself. By repairing and strengthening the link between your body and emotions, Ruby also helps ensure that your inner feelings are truly reflected in your outer expressions.
Azurite: This mineral can help clear blockages from the Throat Chakra and Third-Eye Chakra. Azurite is often used to calm worries and help with communication. Azurite is also good for enhancing intuition, and for helping one recognize higher guidance when it comes in. Meditation with Azurite can help to relieve mental stress.
Alexandrite is the stone of joy. This is a good stone to wear or have around you in a time of grieving. Alexandrite is said to carry a very joyful vibration and is helpful in lifting ones spirits. Using Alexandrite in meditation, in stone layouts or in jewelry can stimulate a harmonic opening of the heart chakra, third eye and crown chakras, in which the three operate as an integrated whole.
Aquamarine is a stone of release. It is a water element stone. It is a powerful cleansing agent for the emotional body and is one of the best stones to employ in clearing communication issues. Aquamarine helps one free oneself of attachments to old patterns, relationships and ways of being and helps one let go of the past. It is excellent for working with grief, as it assists one in fully releasing attachment to the body of a loved one while retaining a positive emotional connection to the loved one’s spiritual being.
Aquamarine’s energy gently, yet firmly, brings one’s emotional patterns to the surface for processing. It helps one understand where one is holding on to emotions, communication patterns, or thoughts that are limiting one’s ability to move on.
Danburite is an excellent stone for those who need to release stress and worry as well as grief. It soothes the heart and sends it a message that all is well. This can be very useful in alleviating ones excess emotion. Holding Danburite in each hand can be a very calming experience and a boon to meditation. Those who have difficulty sleeping are advised to hold a Danburite in the hand, wear them as beads, or place one in a pillowcase, in order to bring peace to the subconscious self. Danburite has a way of calming the mind chatter that can so easily cause insomnia.
Rainbow Moonstone is a great stone for bringing joy to ones life in time when they most need it. This stone acts as a prism that diffuses energy throughout the aura. It is very helpful in clearing the emotional body and can be used to ease emotional trauma.
These remarkably beautiful stones emanate great vitality, life force and exuberant joy. Rainbow Moonstones offer the gifts of inner peace and harmony, emotional balance, and strength, purification and transformation of negative energy. The gems are powerful healers of the emotional body. They are recommended for anyone who suffers from daily stress or who carried old emotional wounds or grief. Rainbow Moonstones promote a healthy optimism, which allows one to overcome obstacles and difficult people and that can sustain one through dark times.
You can place this stone around your living space or wear moonstone beads and let its energy bring you joy and clear your auric field of negative energy.
Morganite can bring immediate release of old pains and sorrow and a sense of lightness, as though a burden has been lifted. It can make the healing of old wounds easier, bringing long-forgotten traumas into consciousness where one can relive them one last time as they are being released. Morganite is recommended to all those who wish to do serious inner work and emotional self-healing.
The energy of Morganite opens and clears the heart chakra and promotes the healing of fear, resentment and anger. It is excellent for ridding oneself of attachment to past relationships that have ended badly or which one feels are unresolved. It can help one recognize emotional patterns that need to be cleared before a new relationship can be successful. Morganite can be used to bring feelings of peace and acceptance when one if facing grief or deep loss.
Rose Quartz is the stone of love and the Higher-Heart Chakra, offering vibrations of compassion, empathy, forgiveness, and of course, unconditional love. As a pendant, Rose Quartz can emanate these energies to the wearer throughout the day. Rose Quartz is helpful in removing excess negative energies from people and environments, for the highest good. Please keep in mind that the crystal should be cleansed regularly if worn daily.
Chrysoprase is a wonderfully healing, Heart Chakra stone that can provide soothing energies to those experiencing grief. Chrysoprase is also known for infusing hope into a situation perceived to be hopeless. Chrysoprase can be helpful during meditation to pull in insights from the Third-Eye into the Heart Chakra to be processed on a deeper level.
Mookaite Jasper is considered a healing stone that bestows strength. It is said to shield the wearer from difficult situations and to connect us to loved ones who have passed away. It is believed to bring us into the "here and now," aiding with problem assessment and decision making.
There are many ways that you can use a stone to alleviate grief and pain that is connected to the loss of a loved one. Choose a method that is comforting and easy for you to do. Here are some ideas:
- Hold it in your hand and think of the person. Let the power of the stone alleviate the negative energy within you.
- Choose stones to represent your feelings about the person, i.e., rose quartz for love, garnet for strength, ocean jasper for joyful times you shared, peridot for lightness, etc.
- Make a remembrance altar for the person - see this: Making your personal altar
- Meditate with grieving stones - angelite for angelic guidance, epidote for lifting grief emotions, sugilite dissolves tension in the soul and alleviates sorrow and grief, peridot and sodalite to cleanse and forgive oneself for any unresolved issues with the person who has passed, coral for embracing the essence of life and the understanding that life is indeed endless, etc.
- Make a string of prayer beads in the person's memory and use these in your prayers for them.
- Place some grieving stones in any location that reminds you of the person.
- Wear gemstone beads and let them remove excess negative energies within you and in your environment.
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